At 22, I can only imagine the feelings that come with a serious medical issue. The grieving process that must take place as, with little notice… your life completely changes. Goals & dreams & plans get sidelined, reprioritized. Not that it’s easy anytime, it can’t be. That’s not what I mean.
We are also experiencing change, but that’s different. Not insignificant, just different. As parents, our love, support and home is always here for our kids – it’s not age-dependent. We would give just about anything for our kids. Including taking the pain and discomfort. If only…
So many changes in such a short time. It’s overwhelming and hard to digest. For everyone. With each day, it gets easier and more comfortable, this new normal. Honestly, I was nuts for a bit. Well, I probably still am, just better. It all takes some time. It’s all scary even with the best of situations.
Our independent son who’s used to charting his course and living on his own will wrap up the next three weeks in the hospital and then return home, to our home, to heal. He’ll bring the cadre of people and stuff that it takes to heal. Our home will be a great healing place, just right for that. We’ll see what the healing thing brings/needs. We’re still peeling back the onion.
When the guys left, we worked to our new normal. We had fun with our empty nest. So while Youngest is adjusting to this new AML reality, so, I guess, are we. Just like he has this life he loves and was working, we do too. Please don’t misunderstand… Sign me up on the dotted line, it just changes things. As hard as he’s working to have it not change things – for us, it just does. We’ll all get back to it, after this bump, this recovery, with a new perspective.
He’s so knowing and respectful of the changes. He will go to extremes to not be a burden, sometimes too much so, we want to help, it’s not a burden and there’s no other place we’d rather be. Well… actually… a beach in the Bahamas would be nice, umbrella drink in hand. 🙂
AML is interrupting life. Now that I’ve acknowledged it… let’s go live it and… on to the next thing.